Two days ago I went to a shopping complex and I got in one shop, where I met these 3 fine looking young ladies, that work in this shop, I started talking to them about, the Relationship conference we will be having this November called THE Love REVOLUTION and REKINDLE AND MAINTAIN THE SPARK DINNER, jokingly I said to her am sure you would Love to attend this event, and she Looked at me and said why? “Come on, why would I waste money attending a conference on Love?” I was so shocked! And she said I would rather attend the Entrepreneurship Seminar than for Love! She called her friend close and asked which event would she would attend? And she said the entrepreneurship and she also went on to say it’s a waste of money to attend a relationship Conference, I was so shocked and was looking at these Ladies with so much shock and disbelief , I couldn’t believe my ears and eyes. And she went on to say “why waste my hard earned money to learn for a silly man, it’s not worth men are so unfaithful, no matter how beautiful you are he will still live you and go and enjoy with another women and the third Lady jumped on to support her friend “men are devils, all my past relationships have ended in heartbreak and disappointment, they Lie to me and dump me.  They are so selfish that they will make you go through misery and not even care the distraction they cause to other people. “Men can kill you honestly and while you are been buried they will be enjoying with another girl. You can imagine the scene 3 angry and broken women against me! As if that was not enough one said “even these so called pastors and people who teach about Love things do these things, coz they know am a pastor too! I don’t take offense coz these ladies had a point! U don’t know how much I appreciated this conversation, though it gave me a painful punch, it really gave me so much to think about, so I told the ladies you know what I gotta run, you are working and I don’t want to turn your shop into opera, this is business, they insisted you “can’t go we still talking” a customer entered the shop, an elderly woman, and she overheard our conversation, she looked at me and said “ two days ago I was marrying off my niece and the Priest was asking what is the most difficult thing for a man to do? The answer was TO BE FAITHFUL, she went on to say can you IMAGIN IN CHURCH, walking away she said “these ladies have a point, men are unfaithful” and all the Ladies said you see!  And I asked these ladies if I invited you for my TV and Radio show would you come? They said why not? Anytime we will be there. Then I said deal and as I was walking away they said we need to seat so we can tell you everything!

As I was walking back to the car my heart was so broken, at what the minds and hearts of those Ladies have turned to, because of some men! I asked them one last question do you have faith that one day you will find a faithful man? One answered me! Yes I will find a Liar and another said, yes I will Love, but Trusting a man? No ways! Almost 98% of men are unfaithful.. I promised I would write articles dedicated to them and any woman, going through such.

As a Life and Relationship Coach I get hundreds of calls and txts from women asking me, is it possible for a man to be faithful and just Love one woman? I have gotten that through my TV and Radio shows….

I have strived to convince women to understand that yes it, is possible to find that man, though sometimes the breed of most of the men Lives much to be desired, being a player is justified and tolerated. I always tell men every time you cheat on a woman, you do much harm to yourself, though you may not see it, its shows us how inadequate u are, that you need more girls to validate your manhood, the true mark of a real man is how true he can be to one woman. I remember one time while doing a Talk show with a friend Smooth IK on his show called Smooth Talk on National Tv, I made these statements I will always be faithful to one woman for the rest of my Life, and I will never sexually test drive women, coz my seed is not for donation, it’s cheap to be a player and I don’t wanna be cheap! Coz am a man of honor, I was wired for that special girl and am serving that spot for her! I don’t wanna have a team of ex- girlfriends… am a gift to one woman. HEAR ME WELL “ONE WOMAN”

One week later I met a friend of mine in town, who started telling me, come on man you don’t have to go on TV to talk about your fidelity, its being proud.

Being Proud I asked? What’s wrong with faithfully loving one woman? What’s wrong with loving a woman Like Christ Loved the church that he lay down his life for his Bride the Church, which is you and me, God is faithful to you! He publicly was stripped for your sake! His Love intentions were not private? He made it Public.

I know what was wrong with my Friend! He is like most men who think they are a gift to every woman; Coz God gave them an overdose of sexual feelings and hormones, that’s why they are chasing every skirt.  Please spare us the drama! I really don’t understand why some men will jump from one bed to another.. The 3 ladies I was talking about are hot, very beautiful young ladies, boy am a man of God, but I tell a real beauty when I see one! Lol please don’t Judge yet, he isn’t thru with me yet! Am kidding, these my sisters are surely fine, they are keeping it real and working for themselves, yet they have built fences inside them. It was not the Love conference that was wrong, it’s the Voice of disappointment and Betrayal that was speaking! It’s the Pain and past experiences! That has left these women wounded.

Coach Steady Divine

Steady divine Phiri is a Trainer, Life and Relationship Coach, Leadership Strategist, Pastor, Entrepreneur, and a Radio/T.V Writer and Host. He is C.E.O of Icon Management solution and Afro Gospel, he is also the founding President of Motivated Generational International and Life Makeover Ministries. His passion and Life mission is “Helping People Find Their Purpose! Motivating and Equipping Them to Achieve It”

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